At Least I'm Changing Constantly

Humans hate change. Humans are constantly changing. These are two of the inescapable truths involved in life--the so-called "human experience". There are so many factors effecting who you are as a person that just cataloging them all would take up all of your time, let alone attempting to be aware of how they contribute to your personality. Even if you wanted to remain exactly who you are right now and were aware of the effects of social climate, family dynamics, aging, media influences, etc, it would be impossible to resist such influences as brain chemistry (which can be altered by approximately 60-gazillion things, including an iron bar being shot through your face and brain, a la Phineas Gage). Fortunately, its such gradual, subtle experience that a life-long change doesn't usually impact our lives in any detrimental way; its just something of which everyone should be aware.

Despite the acrid cynicism i have picked up over the years, for some reason i am still a hopeless and incurable romantic. I don't believe in such fables as Soul Mates or Love-at-First-Sight, but i still find the form and function of love to be such a thing of beauty that it is worth pursuing at almost all cost. My head and my heart are not really on speaking terms because of this outlook, but that's just the way i'm put together. Love is one of those interesting little phenomenon that i will most likely be wondering about for my entire life, and its got plenty of facets to keep me guessing for decades to come.

This brings me to these words which i found scrawled in my moleskine, most likely hurriedly penned down on a train before i forgot them: The nature and minutiae of your love for another must evolve as regularly as we, as human beings, change, lest we find ourselves in love with someone who no longer exists. This is my simple explanation for why people so often fall out of love with each other. Young people, who are in a constant and violent state of emotional fluctuation, fall in and out of love regularly. Older folks, by contrast, have neared the end of their changes and are usually set in their relationship status (or are in a relatively stable state).

Get to know who your lover is; then, never stop.